Anal PleasureThe topic of anal pleasure is rarely openly spoken about. More than likely this is because any talk of anal pleasure tends to bring out feelings of embarrassment in most people (particularly women). Despite the hush hush on the subject, however, there is a growing interest to learn about the topic of anal pleasure. In this article I will go over various ways you can pleasure your lover anally. Both men and women can enjoy anal pleasure. You are probably aware of this but what you may not be aware of is that men and women enjoy anal pleasure for different reasons (physically speaking). Women enjoy anal pleasure because their is a wall of skin that is shared by their pussy and their rectum. Women's sexual nerves are actually closer to this side of the wall than they are to the other side. Men enjoy anal pleasure because through their anus their prostate is stimulated.
When pleasuring your partner anally, you must remember to be very, very gentle. No matter how many times you and your partner may have tried it, you must still be gentle. If it will be the first time you and your partner will try it, then expect it to be very painful when you start. You must take your time, be slow, and gentle. It may be required that your partner may need time for you to just be still so they can adjust to the feeling of your cock inside of their anus. You can't go in and just start pounding away, especially if you are doing it with someone that has never experienced anal sex (it is not in a porn movie). Also you don't want to tear anything...
Another reason you must be gentle, and very careful about what you are doing is because it is very easy to tear the skin inside of the anus. And trust me, it doesn't feel too good to get ripped up in there!
If you are thinking about bringing up the topic of anal sex with your partner then please remember to be very sensitive, not only about how you bring the topic up, but be sensitive to your partner's feelings as well. Your partner may have been thinking about bringing the topic up too, but they also may be one of those people who were dreading the question ever being asked. So be sensitive to their feelings. You also must be prepared to be patient. It may take them some time to warm up to the idea, and it certainly will take them time to get use to doing the actual act. You have to work your way up to going faster and deeper, you can't start off that way. Listen to your partner, let them be your guide. Anal sex should be a pleasurable as possible for both of you.
There are a few positions that make anal entry easier which we will now go over. In the first position, your partner should be on their knees and elbows, bent over. If your partner has something under their chest like a pillow or a blanket they may be more comfortable. Your partner should try to relax as much as possible. If it will help them, try to get them to think about something other than what you are about to do. Once the anus is relaxed, it's not only much easier for you to penetrate it, but it also hurts less for your partner. In the second positions your partner should lay on their back with their knees up. Once again, a pillow or a blanket may make them feel a little more comfortable. Place the pillow or blanket under their butt this time. The extra height will help you to enter the anus more easily.
And in the third position, your partner would lay on their side. Their legs can be either spread apart as if they were taking a step forward, or they could bring their upper leg up to their chest. There are other ways they may positions their legs if they wish. They should do what ever feels comfortable for them.
The next topic I would like to discuss is anal cleanliness. Of course it goes without saying that your partner's anus should be cleaned both before and after anal sex, or anal play for that matter. If you happen to be the one to clean your female partner's anus after you've had anal sex then always, always remember to wipe her front to back. This is extremely important because you could give her a yeast infection if you don't, which would be very unpleasant for her.
Your partner should try to have a bowel movement before you engage in anal sex/anal play. This will reduce the chances that it will turn up during your anal pleasure session. However, it is possible that it still may show up, so be prepared for that. If you're going to stick it there then you have to expect to deal with that sort of thing at one time or another. Just deal with it as best you can. Chances are your partner would be more embarrassed and or mortified than you would be, so be sensitive to that as well.
Vaseline, petrolatum, and other oil based lubricants not only make penetration easier, but can also act as an insulator of sorts against any potential "material" that might surface. Lubrication is the next important issue to discuss. When practicing anal sex you and your partner should discuss what kind, if any, of lubricant you plan to use. There are oil based lubricant out there, such as Vaseline, that you may consider using. However, also consider that latex condoms are damaged by oil based lubricants.
There are water based lubricants to consider as well. However, sometimes these will dry out and can cause more damage than having not used any lubrication at all. Massage or baby oils would work too. Discuss which type of lubricant you think would be best with your partner. You may even try a few different kinds of lubricant out to see which one you both prefer.
When preparing to have anal sex with your partner you may consider playing around with them a little bit instead of getting right to the actual act. Take some time to build up the mood and get you both excited. Spend some time going down on, or paying attention to their genitals as well don't completely ignore those!!). You also might want to prepare your partner's anus for entry by licking it and/or fingering it. Once again, let your partner be your guide. They will tell you what feels good, what doesn't feel good, how fast or slow to go.
If you're going to lick their anus, my suggestion would be to start off slow and gentle. Don't penetrate it right away. Spend some time gliding your tongue around and across the hole. This will loosen up and prepare the anus to open up. Then, gradually, you can start to penetrate the hole with your tongue. Pay attention to your partner's actions and reactions to see what they like or don't like on top of getting them to guide you. Or if they don't guide you at all, this would be a good way to tell what you should and shouldn't keep doing.
If you plan on fingering your partner then be sure to trim down your nails. Fingernails can and will cut the inside of your partner's anus, and that can be very painful. Also remember that your fingers are and can be rough. In fact fingers are more rough than both your penis and your tongue, so be careful. Be very careful about how you penetrate the anus with your cock too. I say this because if you do it wrong it can be a lot more painful than it would be if it were done correctly. Don't shove the whole thing in all at once. Slide in a little bit at a time. This is also very important. It should take you a good bit of time to get the whole length of your penis inside. The actual amount of time will depend on your partner (remember let your partner be your guide?).
Once you are completely inside you won't be moving in and out completely right away either. It's going to take a lot of patience. But once you have gotten to where your partner says it's alright for you to move in and out as you please, you should both experience a great deal of pleasure. Pleasure that will be well worth all the time and effort you put in to getting to that point.
I know I've spoken a lot about pain and the like during this article, but that's only because the things I've discussed should be taken very seriously. If you and your partner take caution and do things properly then this experience should be very enjoyable for both of you. Just remember to communicate, be gentle, take things slow, and be sensitive and everything should work out well. Click here for tour